Survivor Checklists

These checklists are drawn from The Invisible Architecture of Abuse: A Study of Systemic Failure. They exist because institutions record what is reported and documented - and too often lose sight of everything else. The steps below are designed to help you create the record that institutions will later rely on.

You do not have to do all of this at once. Start with what is safe for you right now, and read at a pace that feels safe for you.

Reporting Checklist

• Move to a safe location first, if you can.
• Seek medical care, even if injuries seem minor. Ask for a record of your visit.
• Document the incident - dates, times, and what happened, in your own words. (See the Documentation Checklist below.)
• Report to police and ask for your file number before you leave.
• Report to child protection services if a child is involved.
• Ask about Victim Services - they can support you through this process at no cost.
• Ask about a restraining order or, in Alberta, an Emergency Protection Order if you feel unsafe.
• Get legal advice. Legal Aid Alberta and duty counsel are free options.
• Ask for a written record of every report you make.
• Request follow-up contact information from each person you speak with.
• Keep copies of all filings in a safe place.
• Consider bringing a trusted support person or advocate with you.

Processes vary by province and municipality. If you are outside Alberta, contact your local police, crisis line, or victim services for jurisdiction-specific steps.

Documentation Checklist

Documentation is most powerful when it is consistent. Even small records matter.

• Start a dated journal - write entries as soon as possible after incidents. Include dates, times, locations, and witnesses.
• Save messages and screenshots. Where possible, preserve metadata (sender, date, time).
• Photograph injuries and property damage with a timestamp enabled on your device.
• Keep all medical records, prescriptions, and related receipts.
• Preserve financial records that show patterns of control or loss.
• Log custody exchanges: date, time, location, and any witnesses present.
• Save emails and relevant social media posts; screenshot rather than just bookmarking.
• Back up everything to a secure cloud account and a printed copy stored in a safe location outside the home.

Digital Safety

• Use a device and account the other person cannot access. A library computer or a new email address can help.
• Change passwords on personal accounts and enable two-factor authentication.
• Get a trusted person's contact details in writing.
• Consult a digital-safety resource (e.g., the Safety Net project at the National Network to End Domestic Violence) for guidance on safer technology use.
• Do not store drafts or notes on shared or monitored devices.
• Create or update your personal safety plan.

Laws on recording conversations vary by province. Seek local legal advice if unsure.

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